“You are not a fool for trusting someone who lied to you. They are the fool for lying to someone who trusted them. It’s the easiest thing in the world to get away with temporarily, and the hardest thing to recover from permanently. Please don’t let it change you. There are already way too many of them and far too few of you. “Doe Zantamata

 

“Appreciation for what you have doesn’t mean you have to resign thinking anything could be even better. Appreciative and complacent are two different words. Being appreciative while striving to improve will allow you to be happy every step of the way. “Doe Zantamata

 

“Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OK, and it doesn’t mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go. “Doe Zantamata

 

“Time is never truly wasted. The point of life is to learn. Even if you were stuck in a bad relationship for a long, long time, time, it was the exact amount of time that was needed for the lesson. If when we were born, we received a guide to our lives that told us how long it would take to learn lessons about self-worth, changing people, and love, it would make things a lot easier, but it would be like a crossword book with all the words already circled. There just wouldn’t be any point.“Doe Zantamata

 

“If someone doesn’t accept you now, it’s likely they won’t accept you later, either. Don’t change for anyone. Even if you change everything they’ve complained about, they’ll just make up a new list of things for you to work on. Having a discussion and being honest with each other can do more than just salvage a relationship, it can save it. What is it that you don’t like about each other? Be open. Can you each accept those things even if you’d prefer them to be different? If the answer is no, then realize that it will be a repeating argument. Even if people make promises to change and even if they really want to, it still takes time. No sense both of you being unhappy in the meantime about things that may or may not ever change. That “meantime” could be a whole lifetime away. “Doe Zantamata