“First bliss comes naturally. Second bliss is a choice. It’s the choice to trust, to love, to put yourself out there, knowing full well that you can get hurt. But you won’t be able to live, love, and experience all the joys of life if you don’t put yourself back out there again. It takes courage –a lot of courage– but it’s worth it. “Doe Zantamata

 

“If a friend stops speaking with you because they believed gossip about you without even asking you “your side,” then you didn’t really lose a friend. You only lost a person who didn’t trust or believe in you…and that’s not really a loss at all. It hurts because it feels unfair, and you would not have treated them the same way. But if that’s the choice they’ve made, you can really only accept it and let them go. Even if you convince them this time, the absence of trust will not have changed and will continue to hurt you in every future circumstance. “Doe Zantamata

 

“You are not a fool for trusting someone who lied to you. They are the fool for lying to someone who trusted them. It’s the easiest thing in the world to get away with temporarily, and the hardest thing to recover from permanently. Please don’t let it change you. There are already way too many of them and far too few of you. “Doe Zantamata

 

“Appreciation for what you have doesn’t mean you have to resign thinking anything could be even better. Appreciative and complacent are two different words. Being appreciative while striving to improve will allow you to be happy every step of the way. “Doe Zantamata

 

“Anyone can hold a grudge, but it takes a person with character to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from a painful burden. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what happened was OK, and it doesn’t mean that person should still be welcome in your life. It just means you have made peace with the pain, and are ready to let it go. “Doe Zantamata