“Our attention spans may have been caught up in the pressures of chasing faster, bigger, more, and new, but our souls have known all along that achievement of any of those things brings only temporary satisfaction. Then, the race begins again. They do not bring happiness. Happiness is found in looking at what you have right here, right now, and feeling at peace and appreciative of it all. Striving to improve is an excellent pursuit as long as it doesn’t take away from the fulfillment of the present moment. Those who find happiness at every step won’t have a need for any top. Those who will only be happy at the top will only seek a new top once they arrive there. Wake up and be awesome. Keep dreaming. Don’t be afraid to love, it’s what we’re all here for. Do what’s in your heart and you won’t have nearly as many regrets. Have the courage to disappoint people if it means being honest, because they value your honesty more than your half-hearted approval. Things won’t always be fair, or right, but act as if you were a billion people and have faith that the good you do matters. Every little light brightens up the world, and the only one you can ever shine is your own. Shine bright, do right, love on. “Doe Zantamata

 

“Choosing forgiveness doesn’t mean that the wounds will suddenly vanish. All healing – physical, emotional, and mental – takes time. Choosing forgiveness means that you’ve decided to begin the healing process. Instead of thinking, “I will not forgive that person because…” shift it to, “I choose to hold on to the resentment of that pain because…” How does holding on to that pain really help your life? What benefit is there for you to keep it alive? Once you make that shift inside, you will always find reason to forgive, and will never find reason not to. The key benefit to forgiving is the freedom to love and trust again. “Doe Zantamata

 

“It’s a big job, shortening the distance between wanting and believing. The closer they are together, the more likely the reality will be. But don’t force yourself. Forcing causes anxiety and a feeling of being overwhelmed. That energy pushes away good things and sheds doubt on good beliefs. Encourage yourself. Nudge yourself. Stretch just a little further every day. Go at your pace and build your confidence gradually, and your positive changes will be solid. Breathe deeply and take those steps. You can do it. “Doe Zantamata

 

“There are two paths to self-worth. One begins with a real or perceived lack of support, love, or encouragement in childhood. As the child becomes an adult, he or she has to decide to have something which was never fostered or nurtured. This is difficult to overcome because there is a false belief that if one’s parents didn’t love them, the two people who should have the most and knew them the most, then how could anyone who truly knew them, love them. Challenges are: letting people in, becoming comfortable with the vulnerability that is love. The second path to self-worth begins with a real or perceived abundance of support, love, or encouragement in childhood. As the child becomes an adult, he or she is accustomed to being loved, approved of, and validated within the home. When this person is rejected, it’s so completely foreign to them that they may be drawn in to try to prove their worth to this job, friend, or relationship. They cannot understand why they are not loved. Challenges are: realizing rejection doesn’t mean that there’s a need to change the self to become acceptable to another, discovering worth that is independent of the agreement or disagreement of others. Neither path is easy. Neither path is impossible to navigate. It may take a few of the same relationship to occur before a pattern is recognized. Even then, if the person comes to the conclusion that “all women are emotional” or “all men are liars” then they are missing their lesson. If, and only if, they recognize their part in allowing the mistreatment to continue and assessing the reasons why, will they be freed from the obstacle of lack of self-worth. The pitfall is to become trapped in wonder if their childhood had only been different. No matter how it had been, there would still be the “other side” to face within adult relationships. Challenges to self-worth would either arise in the form of “that’s all I’ve ever known” or “I’ve never experienced this before.” Doe Zantamata

 

“Building, or rebuilding, self-worth after the break up of a damaging relationship starts with stopping the negative thoughts of the one who is no longer there, and thinking positive thoughts of the one who still is…you. “Doe Zantamata