“It’s never a good time for bad news, but it’s always the right time for the truth. The longer a lie is held, the more difficult it becomes to reveal the truth. If it’s held a long time, two truths must be told: the original lie, and the reason it was held and covered so many times for so long. One becomes a thousand, and one is easier to forgive, and maintain trust, than many. Revealing is painful, but sooner is always easier, less painful, and better than later. ” Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Forgiving yourself is a gift to the world. If you can look at your own mistakes and see them as mistakes of a good person, you’ll develop compassion. You’ll be able to look at others and see that they are good people who also made mistakes. If you believe you are a bad or stupid person, you won’t believe you can contribute much to the world. Believing you are good and wiser for your mistakes will allow you to contribute wisdom, compassion, and forgiveness in your time here, making it a kinder and more forgiving place…and that’s exactly what the world needs. “

Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Choosing forgiveness doesn’t mean that the wounds will suddenly vanish. All healing – physical, emotional, and mental – takes time. Choosing forgiveness means that you’ve decided to begin the healing process. ” Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Have you ever heard someone say one thing and then do another, and asked them why? You may have been shocked at their reaction…”Don’t judge me! What are you accusing me of? How dare you ask me that!” and immediately began to apologize for asking, as your intention was none of those things. You just didn’t know why they said one thing and did another. Sometimes, it’s just a sensitive subject. Other times many times, the reaction comes from them judging themselves, being afraid of being caught in a lie, or trying to hide something. Stay aware, and realize that if you can’t freely communicate, this may not be a healthy friendship or relationship for you. ” Doe Zantamata