“Be aware of button pushing during disagreements. One common way that a person may attempt to sway your opinion is to introduce false isolation. That is, to say, “well everybody thinks what I think, and only you think differently. “Everybody may be family, a group of friends, or just a made up “everybody that doesn’t really exist. If you react, not wanting to be the only one left out, then this method of persuasion will be used on you again and again. You will eventually lose confidence in your own thoughts. It usually comes after you ask for a reason. If there isn’t a good one…everybody else thinks so seems to get pulled out as if that is a reason. But it’s really not. Being aware of this allows you to respond and again ask for a reason, rather than just react and be persuaded against your own true feelings. It is good to be open to and consider other peoples opinions when things actually concern and affect them. But, be careful not to just abandon your own needs and concerns just because you’ve been told a group thinks otherwise…especially when decisions and outcomes don’t even affect them. Every person has wants, needs, and opinions, and yours are just as valid and important as those of anyone else. “Doe Zantamata
Intuitive Reader Specializing in Love and Spiritual Relationships

 

“Courage takes forethought. You can feel awkward now for using it, or regretful later for not using it. There is some resistance in every chosen path, but the one that requires courage is usually the best one to choose. It leads to the real you. People talk often of taking the path of least resistance, but in the present moment it will always seem easier to avoid than deal with those awkward feelings. So it’s best to think more in terms of choices and consequences and summon up that courage within. You won’t regret it. “Doe Zantamata
Intuitive Reader Specializing in Love and Spiritual Relationships

 

“Changing our own lives takes work. It takes courage, patience, persistence, and the strength to continue to be positive about those changes no matter how slow they may appear to be going. But it’s worth it. The energy of change builds up and can be used to do this. Unfortunately, that courage thing can easily prevent people from going forward. What doesn’t take courage is to look at someone else’s life and pick out all their perceived flaws and criticize them at random. Maybe this is why people do that so often instead of working on their own lives. You don’t have to be the same. Use your energy to better your own life and keep your attention on it. If you’re being criticized by someone or even by a few people, don’t waste too much energy trying to explain things to them or to defend your choices or fill them in on all they don’t know. You need all your energy to continue working on you.  “Doe Zantamata
Intuitive Reader Specializing in Love and Spiritual Relationships

 

 

“When you feel you’ve failed at something, it can be anywhere from discouraging to devastating. The last thing you want to do is try again. All that effort and it ended in a huge disappointment. But nothing in its entirety is ever a failure. For a time, it brought you happiness, nourished your hope, and there were many, many good moments. Nothing in life is permanent – not even life is permanent. So take up those good memories with you and move forward. If you only remember the pain, if you only remember the end, you’ll have a dark fog around you that will prevent you from seeing all the opportunities and new beginnings that come your way every single day. Lift the fog and face every new day with optimism. Sure, there’s bound to be some more trying times ahead, but there will be many amazing times, too. You’re here to love and learn, and at those two things, you have always, always succeeded. “Doe Zantamata
Intuitive Reader Specializing in Love and Spiritual Relationships

 

“Energy and time are limited life resources. Be conscious of where you spend them so that there is more than enough of both for the things and people who are most important to you. “Doe Zantamata
Intuitive Reader Specializing in Love and Spiritual Relationships