“Building, or rebuilding, self-worth after the break up of a damaging relationship starts with stopping the negative thoughts of the one who is no longer there, and thinking positive thoughts of the one who still is…you. “Doe Zantamata

“Before you get or achieve what you believe you want, it’s really only an ideal. Everything has positive and negative to it. When you have nothing, there’s nothing to lose… and there’s a freedom in that. When you have more, there is more to lose. Develop security not in things but in yourself, your abilities, resilience, adaptability and determination. This will far greater surpass any comfort achieved in any thing or relationship that exists outside of yourself. “Doe Zantamata

“It’s a big job, shortening the distance between wanting and believing. The closer they are together, the more likely the reality will be. But don’t force yourself. Forcing causes anxiety and a feeling of being overwhelmed. That energy pushes away good things and sheds doubt on good beliefs. Encourage yourself. Nudge yourself. Stretch just a little further every day. Go at your pace and build your confidence gradually and your positive changes will be solid. Breathe deeply and take those steps. You can do it. ” Doe Zantamata

“The more confident you are, the less need you’ll feel to defend yourself against criticism. The more secure you are, the less insults will hurt. The more self-worth you have, the less time you’ll waste on those who don’t see much in you. So put your energy into recognizing and developing yourself, your talents, your well-being, and you’ll find that your closest relationships support you, and in turn you support them, too. The good times will be richer, and the hard times will be more manageable. Life will be filled with love. ” Doe Zantamata