The Reality You Create

The Reality You Create

“Reality is what we take to be true. What we take to be true is what we believe. What we believe is based upon our perceptions. What we perceive depends upon what we look for. What we look for depends upon what we think. What we think depends upon what we perceive. What we perceive determines what we believe. What we believe determines what we take to be true. What we take to be true is our reality.” ~ Gary Zukav

If you perceive separation, no matter who is with you, no matter how many you have around you, you will still feel separation because that is the reality you are creating.

I listen to you as you say you have no friends, you are alone, you are isolated. I listen again when you interact with people you still comment on the isolation.  I ask you is it your perception because there are not people around you all the time that you are isolated? When you look at your physical world and do not have a full social calendar does that indicate isolation and being alone?

When you meditate and walk with your higher mind, twin soul, and bond mates do you still perceive yourself to be alone? When you journey spiritually with your higher mind do you perceive yourself to be alone? If the answer is no, then why when meditation is over you return to the perception of being alone? Your higher mind, your twin soul, and your bandmates are still present when you return they are not just part of your spiritual journey they are part of your physical journey too. They remain with you unless you persist in perceiving a separation that happens in your thoughts when the meditation is over. When you choose to change your perception about being alone, being isolated, being separate your reality will also change. You control your reality with what you believe. You believe you are separate from your higher mind and soul and so you create that separation in spite of the first statement/affirmation that you received when you started working with me. ” I am one with my soul” “I am one with my higher mind”. Your perception of separation in your spiritual life becomes your reality in your physical life. Such is the real world, what you believe about yourself and your existence becomes your reality.

 

Soul Mates, Twin Souls are already with you

Soul Mates, Twin Souls are already with you

Your soul mate or twin soul is already with you in spirit. believe this and they will manifest physically.

So much of the time our focus is drawn to the physical.  We meet someone and we can remember the details of that person, the color of their eyes, the color of their hair, the nuances of their mannerism but are you aware of their soul? I know that first appearances matter but is that the first physical appearance or the first spiritual appearance. Are you so aware of the physical appearance that you miss the spiritual appearance? You want your soul mate or your twin soul in your life but when they show up if they are not in the package that you expect do you dismiss them?

Believe that your twin soul or soul mate is already part of your life, this has nothing to do with how they will look in the physical. This is about how you will recognize the energy that you have acknowledged in your life daily. Understanding that your soul mate or twin soul has a strong connection to your soul, that they are energetically part of your soul. Believe that they are always with you, acknowledge the energy of your own soul, so when you meet the person whose energy resonates with your soul you will be ready to acknowledge that you have indeed connected with your soul mate or twin soul.  Be aware of the energy of the soul before you focus on the physical appearance of the body. Your soul and twin soul are unlikely to bring you someone who is physically abhorrent to you. However, if you base your relationship requirements on physical appearances of beauty and age per the accepted norm you may meet your twin soul or life mate and dismiss them because they do not meet the accepted norms of beauty or masculine attractiveness. This will leave you in seeking mode and open you to chaos playing games with you by putting someone you have had a crush on or someone you consider handsome or beautiful in your path and convince you that in this package is the spiritual partner you are seeking.

Your twin soul, lifemate, or soul mate will not enter a physical form just because its appearance pleases you. There is more required in a physical form than looks for the soul to be attracted to them. In fact, the attraction always begins between the souls, the body may just be friends and that too is okay. But if you believe your twin soul or soul mate is always with you then you will definitely recognize them when they take a physical form no matter what that forms look like. It is up to you to choose the spiritual connection that you have been seeking, or wait for that connection to show up in a younger, older, prettier, more handsome package.  I am not saying that you can not have it all just that part of the challenge of the relationship is that it will take you outside of your comfort zone it will challenge you to look beyond the physical. If you can not do that then perhaps you are not yet ready to venture down the path of spiritual relationships just yet.

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11 Habits That Can Create Positive Relationships

11 Habits That Can Create Positive Relationships

The definition of a habit is: “a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.” Once formed and ingrained into your being, habits are very difficult to break. This includes habits that are practiced in your relationships – positive or negative.

Upon closer examination, it becomes evident that positive habits are a foundation of positive relationships. When bad habits are present, the relationship is challenged. On the flip side, good habits create and maintain strong, healthy relationships.

HERE ARE 11 HABITS THAT HELP CREATE POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS…

1. BEING RESPECTFUL TO EACH OTHER

Respect is one of the most important habits of positive relationships because it builds trust and shows acceptance. Showing disrespect towards your partner slowly weakens trust and creates barriers in your connection with each other.

Disagreements often lead to arguments, and arguments often lead to insults. Make sure to watch your tongue and think before allowing something to come out that could lead to negative consequences.

2. ELIMINATING DISTRACTIONS WHEN WITH YOUR PARTNER

Between work and other obligations, we don’t have enough time with each other as it is. Continuing to allow distractions to interrupt your time alone is damaging to your relationship and affects intimacy with your partner. Preoccupation with work is one of the biggest distractions, often arising when couples are trying to get closer.

There are some simple things you can do: turn off the T.V. when having dinner, leave your phones off when spending time alone, and make sure that your work is completed before heading home.

3. RESPONDING TO EACH OTHER

Are you ready for an eye-opening statistic? 86 percent of happily married couples respond to their partners bid for attention, while only 30 percent of unhappy couples do the same.

You can show your attention by doing very simple things: responding to your partner when they ask a question, or bringing something on your way home when asked. It’s really as simple as showing your attentiveness and responsiveness when something arises.

4. RECOGNIZING AND APPRECIATING QUALITIES

Create the habit of conveying positive qualities towards your partner. This really deepens the emotional connection between couples and makes the other person feel genuinely good about being them.

Showing admiration and appreciation of your partner’s positive attributes will strengthen the bond that already exists between you, while continuously bringing up the person’s shortcomings ultimately damages the relationship…sometimes irreparably.

5. STAYING CONNECTED THROUGH THE DAY

Nearly all of our lives are busy from the moment we wake up. You are probably no different. However, part of having a long, happy relationship is to show your love and affection when apart from each other.

When you make a commitment to another person, you essentially make that person the number one priority in your life. There should be nothing that allows that commitment to wane, even a hectic work schedule.

Connect with each other through the day by sending a text on your break or giving your partner a call on the way home.

6. TAKING SOME TIME APART

You may be thinking: “Wait…so how am I supposed to stay connected to my partner while being told to take time apart?” Good question. When frustrations occur in a relationship (and they will), time apart can be both healthy and productive.

The truth is that healthy couples recognize the importance of taking time apart. They recognize that this time deepens the appreciation and love for each other, while giving them some much-needed quiet time. This can be in the form of going to a movie alone, having some dinner with friends, or simply reading a book or watching some television by yourself.

7. FORGIVING SHORTCOMINGS

Personal flaws are part of being human. It’s not about finding someone that is perfect, but about finding someone who is perfect for you.

You will continually realize that the person you fell in love with has some quirks that push your buttons. To be in a healthy relationship means accepting these shortcomings, forgiving them, and loving the person anyways.

8.FREQUENT AFFECTION

Research shows that people in healthy relationships are abundantly affectionate toward each other.

Affection and being close to each other are important because it fosters connection and trust. A healthy frequency of affection allows for your bond to strengthen, ultimately creating a stronger connection with each other.

9. SURPRISING YOUR PARTNER

When you reach a certain time-frame in your relationship, the feelings of infatuation and intrigue with the other can start to weaken – this is natural. The thing that you are trying to avoid is complacency and feelings of routineness.

Spontaneity in a relationship is healthy, fun, and creates feelings of appreciation and love. These spontaneous gestures can be small or large, but should always show that you made the effort to do something special.

If you are not the most creative type (and that’s okay!) there are plenty of great ideas circulating around in cyberspace.

10. WORKING TOGETHER ON GOALS

Healthy relationships focus on having both short and long term goals. Complacency and a lack of progress in your relationship and lives together can lead to unhappiness and regret.

Instead, sit down and figure out where you want to be in the next 5, 10 or 20 years…what do you want your lives together to look like?

One important thing to remember: don’t base your goals on what others think your relationship should look like. Forget about “success” as society defines it…instead, focus on what will make you and your partner truly happy and fulfilled.

11. FINDING HUMOR IN EACH OTHER’S MISTAKES

Relationships are a serious thing, but that doesn’t mean it has to be serious all the time…even when mistakes are made. You went into a relationship with someone knowing that they will probably do something dumb once in a while…so find some ways to laugh about it together.

Just anticipate that when you do something dumb, they will probably laugh in return…hey, it will eventually be funny.

source: www.powerofpositivity.com

Relationship Wisdom

“Genuine relationships depend first on a healthy relationship with ourselves.” ~ Sonia Choquette

Relationship Wisdom

Love and Relationship

“The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” ~ Rumi

Love and Relationship

“A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening.” ~ Kenny Loggins