“Opening yourself up to a person takes a huge amount of courage and trust. Even if you think you know, you never really know how they will react or respond and that will always be out of your control. In keeping them out, you keep the risk of disappointment and pain out. But in keeping them out, you keep the chance of acceptance and love out, too. In the end, you really have to decide if the risk or the chance is more important to you and act accordingly. ”
Doe Zantamata
Give Each other some space at the moment. Trust and have faith that all will work out for the best.
How is your relationship working? Are you uncertain of where your relationship is going? Who do you use to check the integrity of your relationship? Do you look at your friends and family and compare your relationship to theirs? What if you have a twin flame relationship? Can you compare it to that of your friends and family? Probably not if you have a twin flame relationship then believe it or not your relationship is fairly unique. Are you trying to force it to fit the mold of every relationship around you? You may find that try as you will you can not force your relationship to fit into a traditional mold. What do you do to make it work as it should? Any of these questions familiar? Send your questions in and have them answered here or in a private e-mail.
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“Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person.” ~ Wayne Dyer
What are you looking for in your partner? Do you have it? Are you a good communicator? Do you share your feelings? But they do not. Are you only looking at communication and sharing feelings as a verbal thing? Do you think that the only valid form of communication is talking? If you are ignoring all the ways one communicates with a partner and narrow it down to verbal only you are missing some of the best moments in your relationship. What is my partner telling me when he makes me dinner? What is he telling me when he bakes me cookies? Or buy my favorite coffee? When he shows interest in the things that I am interested in? Could he be saying I matter to him? Could he be saying I was thinking about what you like so I made you cookies or I picked up your brand of coffee while I was out? I understand that is what that means because that is what it means when I do special things for him. So what if he did not say to me verbally “while I was out shopping I was thinking of you.” So if your person is not a talker but a doer you probably should not get hung up on verbal communication, don’t dismiss their form of communication because it does not match your expectations.
“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” ~ Tony Robbins
“Trust your gut instinct over spreadsheets. There are too many variables in the real world that you simply can’t put into a spreadsheet. Spreadsheets spit out results from your inexact assumptions and give you a false sense of security. In most cases, your heart and gut are still your best guide.” ~ Naveen Jain
This is what you need to be aware of when your first go-to is to analyze everything to the umpteenth degree. No matter how much you analyze things the information you are using is inexact and sometimes influenced by chaos and negativity. It is no wonder that your conclusion does not make you happy. You follow what you have chosen because you believe you have used your best resources to reach your conclusion. However, your best resources are usually ego, conscious mind, and others’ opinions that have been passed off as fact.
So trust your “gut” trust your “heart”. Those are guided by intuitive awareness. Intuitive awareness comes from your higher mind. The higher mind has access to all knowledge and awareness via the divine source. However, I have found that many do not trust their higher mind so, in essence, they are saying they do not trust themselves. If you can not trust your self you are setting up a dangerous situation in which no one else can trust you either. Trust is the foundation of all relationships, beginning with the one between you and your higher mind. If there is no trust there, there will be no trust anywhere in your life. So a relationship with your twin soul, or with anyone will be fraught with anxiety and fear. Every action will be fear-based because you do not trust yourself.