“Compassion dissolves anger. Understanding why someone behaves the way they do allows for forgiveness when they have mistreated you. Maybe they are insecure, or in pain, or maybe they even suffered some type of abuse in their lifetime, and you can see why they are the way they are. But when your compassion extends to excusing them for treating you poorly, over and over, it not only damages your self-worth, but prevents them from healing as well. Refuse to allow it to continue, for everyone’s sake. ” Doe Zantamata 

“Some people will like you for no reason, some people will not like you for no reason. Who you choose to spend the most time, thoughts, and effort on, depend on exactly how much you like yourself. By just staying near to people who treat you poorly, you are telling them it’s OK to do so. Only keep people close to you who treat you well. ” Doe Zantamata 

“Never confuse self-love with big ego, the two are entirely different. A big ego requires a person to think they are better than others and will put others down in order to keep that perception. Self-love means you are your own best friend and you love, accept, consider, encourage, care for, and believe in yourself. Through that, you are able to do that for others even indirectly by inspiring them to do the same. To be grateful for the gift of a lifetime means to love it…to love you. “Doe Zantamata 

“First bliss comes naturally. Second bliss is a choice. It’s the choice to trust, to love, to put yourself out there, knowing full well that you can get hurt. But you won’t be able to live, love, and experience all the joys of life if you don’t put yourself back out there again. It takes courage –a lot of courage– but it’s worth it. “Doe Zantamata 

“If you think about how many times you’ve been lied to, taken advantage of or not appreciated, you’ll likely not even want to get out of bed. But if you think about how much life you have ahead of you, how many beautiful experiences await you in the weeks and years ahead, you can rise with optimism and walk with wisdom. Those other experiences didn’t break you, they taught you the value of kindness and honesty and that what you give to the world is so rare it’s sometimes not believed. You don’t have to be a victim or a martyr or even a survivor. Just be a wiser version of your former self.  “Doe Zantamata