“Choosing forgiveness doesn’t mean that the wounds will suddenly vanish. All healing – physical, emotional, and mental – takes time. Choosing forgiveness means that you’ve decided to begin the healing process. ” Doe Zantamata
“Have you ever heard someone say one thing and then do another, and asked them why? You may have been shocked at their reaction…”Don’t judge me! What are you accusing me of? How dare you ask me that!” and immediately began to apologize for asking, as your intention was none of those things. You just didn’t know why they said one thing and did another. Sometimes, it’s just a sensitive subject. Other times many times, the reaction comes from them judging themselves, being afraid of being caught in a lie, or trying to hide something. Stay aware, and realize that if you can’t freely communicate, this may not be a healthy friendship or relationship for you. ” Doe Zantamata
“Before you get or achieve what you believe you want, it’s really only an ideal. Everything has positive and negative to it. When you have nothing, there’s nothing to lose… and there’s a freedom in that. When you have more, there is more to lose. Develop security not in things but in yourself, your abilities, resilience, adaptability, and determination. This will far greater surpass any comfort achieved in anything or relationship that exists outside of yourself. ” Doe Zantamata
“Love means, “I accept you as you are, exactly as you are. It does not mean that you are perfect, but it does mean that every single thing about you is 100% acceptable. Many things are even more than just acceptable, they are wonderful! But there is absolutely nothing you need to change in order to become loveable.” The moment you believe these things about yourself, you have found true love. You are then open to share it with another person who feels the same way. ” Doe Zantamata
“Karma in relationships is often misunderstood. Some people love to give. It’s a great feeling, and they do so with no expectation. But then, they wonder why they have so little. If you look at their reactions when someone did try to give to them, it becomes clear. If they said, “You shouldn’t have,” “It’s too much,” “I’m fine,” or nothing at all, then this is what they have put out into the world. Then, no matter how much love, time, or help they give, they’ve clearly stated they want nothing in return. Giving is virtuous, but so is accepting gifts gratefully. Otherwise, the refusal denies another person of the chance to give. ” Doe Zantamata