“Compassion dissolves anger. Understanding why someone behaves the way they do allows for forgiveness when they have mistreated you. Maybe they are insecure, or in pain, or maybe they even suffered some type of abuse in their lifetime, and you can see why they are the way they are. But when your compassion extends to excusing them for treating you poorly, over and over, it not only damages your self-worth, but prevents them from healing as well. Refuse to allow it to continue, for everyone’s sake. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Viewing rejection as “you are not good enough” will cause you to try to change in order to become “good enough” for that person or circumstance. Seeing rejection as “it’s not right for you, but they happened to recognize it first” free you to find something or someone who is right for you instead. At the heart of this shift in thinking are four very important things: 1. Love yourself, 2. Accept yourself, 3. Do your best, 4. Have confidence in the other three.” Doe Zantamata

 

 

“No matter how long it takes, true love is always worth the wait. If you are with someone just to be with someone, then you won’t be available when the right someone comes along. Fear of being alone is a subconscious fear that you alone are not whole, not enough, not love in and of yourself. That energy will come across as desperation and will lead to a relationship with someone either very needy or very controlling. Neither of those are love. Feeling whole and complete alone but being open to a loving relationship will be the exact right energy to begin and foster a beautiful connection. And no matter if it happens early in life or later in life, nothing will be missed and no time wasted. Certain qualities take time to develop, cannot be rushed, and can only be appreciated once they become complete. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“You cannot receive true love until you love yourself first. We see only a reflection of ourselves in other people. You will only accept the love that you feel inside. If you don’t love yourself, you will think it’s love when someone treats you poorly, even though in your mind, you may know you should be treated better. If you were treated better, you would lose interest because it would not match the feeling you have inside. We reject anything more than we feel we truly deserve. Love yourself, accept yourself, and you will no longer be attracted to those who don’t treat you with love and kindness. Feel love, receive love. ” Doe Zantamata

 

 

“There are two things you should never be afraid of when resolving a disagreement with someone you love: to tell them when you think that they are wrong and to admit to them when you believe that they are right. Neither will be easy to do at first, but both will ultimately build greater trust between you and a deeper love and respect. ”
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