“Some people think that if they always assume the best in people and their intentions, that’s “being positive,” but it’s really not. Now, it’s not good to assume the worst, either. Just don’t assume anything. Ask. Observe. Ask again. Observe again. If you only assume the best, you will eventually be disappointed when you realize that they are not who they never were. If you ask and observe, you can truly get to know them, and choose to accept them as they really are, with no false pedestals and no expectations of perfection. That’s “being positive.” In fact, that’s love. ” Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Everything in the world has a natural ebb and flow. The tides move out but flow in again. While the flow is much more comfortable, the ebb has great meaning. When time and resources are stripped away, you can see clearly what and who truly matters to you and who you matter to in return. When your flow returns, you’ll know exactly with who and where your time will be best spent, with a brand new appreciation for it all. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“The worst thing about lies is that they cause a person to doubt if they should trust so much. But the problem isn’t too much trust, the problem is too many lies. Recognize when you can’t trust a certain person anymore but don’t let that spill over to all people. You’ll never find true love at arm’s length, but if you put up a wall of mistrust, that’s the closest anyone can get. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Always assume that people cannot understand your perspective and feelings unless you’ve explained them to them. What is so clear from where you stand may be completely invisible from a different perspective. If you do explain and they still don’t get it or just don’t care, then it doesn’t mean you’ve wasted your time. It just means that you now know for sure that if you value being understood or considered, this won’t be a person who can do those things very well, if even at all. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“There are three levels of trust. It is possible to have all three, or to have only one or two. It is only possible to be truly happy when all three are in place. 1. Trust in self: You make your own decisions, use your intuition, talk to others but don’t rely on others to make decisions for you. 2. Trust in others: Everyone has 100% trust until they prove untrustworthy. You believe all people are good inside. 3. Trust in the Universe: You know you are part of a bigger plan, so even when things seem wrong, you know they will improve. “Doe Zantamata