“Before you get or achieve what you believe you want, it’s really only an ideal. Everything has positive and negative to it. When you have nothing, there’s nothing to lose…and there’s a freedom in that. When you have more, there is more to lose. Develop security not in things but in yourself, your abilities, resilience, adaptability, and determination. This will far greater surpass any comfort achieved in anything or relationship that exists outside of yourself. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Trust is as necessary to a happy, healthy relationship as air is to the lungs. With it, a relationship can survive almost anything. Without it, almost nothing. Living in a world without trust is truly painful. When a person says, “trust is something that needs to be earned,” it’s a big sign that this person’s trust was broken one too many times, and they got fed up. Without trust, stories are invented, and drama flows freely. With trust, a person can take people’s word at face value, not read into things negatively, and just be happier. It was not up to you to be lied to, but it is up to you to trust again. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“What you impress people by is what you are impressed by in other people. If you are impressed by kindness and generosity, that means those things are in you, and you believe they are important. Those who are impressed by displays of status, power, flash, or waving money around don’t yet see the value in the qualities those actions show are lacking in that person…humility and gratitude. If a person doesn’t value your good qualities, it doesn’t mean they’re not important. They’re just not important to that person, and probably not present in them because of that. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Every thought, every spoken word, every action sets a process in motion. We control what we send out, but not the results or consequences that follow. Good intentions set forth with the goal to destroy a perceived wrong will cause destruction in their wake. Good intentions set forth in love will yield good results, eventually. Be conscious of method even when certain of good intentions. “Doe Zantamata

 

 

“Your mind wants to be right, but your soul wants the truth. This is why you should never discuss conflicting ideas in anger or sadness. Anger and sadness are emotions of the mind. When faced with the truth that your soul recognizes, you will feel it in your heart, but with the anger or sadness, your mind will force you to keep arguing, find something else to be right about, or deny being wrong. This prevents the truth and peace from returning. ” Doe Zantamata